Kylee, the formative years..: April 2014

Wednesday, April 30, 2014

A new pin..

.. a second pin has been set up because the old pin is full. Full of what? Diamonds of course, and after the seventh diamond is attached to the pin, you get to take it home and a new pin is started. Now do you see what I mean?

You get a diamond for being good, actually exceptionally good, a role model no less. After Kylee got her first ‘Bravo’, she had already won double the awards I ever got at school and she is not even out of Grade One yet.

Getting to take your pin home is no easy achievement but I would imagine that Kylee makes it look easy.

Another success..

Guess who doesn’t need trainer wheels on her bicycle anymore? It doesn’t take much guesswork, and if you answered ‘Kylee’, you would be right of course, but there are no prizes for a right answer.

Kylee’s achievements to date show how far a person can go with kindness and a determination to succeed, and it will be interesting to see the grand total for the entire year. There are only five and a half months to go to her next birthday celebration and a lot can happen in that time, and I expect that it will..

Smile

Saturday, April 26, 2014

A new way to make friends..

Kylee has been told not to interrupt when people are speaking, and being an intrinsically good kid, she obeys the rule. However, Kylee is difficult to keep down, not a bad thing in my books, and a few days ago, she found a new around not interrupting.

We were sitting in a local Tim Horton’s, and Kylee has been playing a version of ‘hide and seek’ with a couple of pensioners sitting behind us. She asked me for use of a pen, grabbed a paper napkin, wrote ‘My name is Kylee’, and then held it up for the two pensioners to see.

As it happened, both were or had been teachers, and they just had to talk to her as we were about to leave. All big smiles of course, and questions for her.

She loves it, people around her love it, and we could all learn a lot from her. It’s al too easy to become insular, secretive and crotchety, and far too many of us do attain all three negative qualities. I am hoping that she doesn’t or is forced into it by the disposition and attitudes of others. So far, it s all good, and is a pleasure to watch.

Smile

PS. Guess who can ride a bike without training wheels attached? Another break-through in recent days. It all happens for good little girls..

A lover of technology..

Kylee has always embraced technology, right from the first days of watching me fix computers. I set up a computer for her at this location almost four years ago and, last birthday, she was bought a cellphone (it wasn’t me) which occasionally has minutes out on it.

Anyway, it came to pass that I had to collect her from school last Wednesday, visiting the school office before leaving. I was told why, but Kylee was completely in the dark, and a touch apprehensive about having to go there.

On entry, the school secretary looked up, big smile, walked around the desk and presented Kylee with a prize she had won in the school draw. It wasn’t an ‘also ran’ prize. It was the TOP prize, an iPad Mini no less.

I have seen Kylee go through many emotions over time, but I have never seen her blush so much or be speechless. As the enormity of it dawned on her, she let out ‘I’ve won an iPad”, a phrase repeated continually as we left the school, on the way back home, at home..

I can’t think of a better candidate for the win. If anybody deserved it, she did, for her kindness, her caring, everything good about her.

Well done, Kylee.. Smile

Pie crusts..

"Promises and pie-crust are made to be broken," wrote the British satirist Jonathan Swift (1667-1745).

From this, we get the phrase 'pie crusting', used in the UK to describe the action of making a promise to somebody while secretly having very little intention of keeping one's word.

Pie crusting is a dangerous game when played with one's kids. It leads to mistrust and eventually a lack of respect. If one can't trust one's parents or grandparents, who can ever be trusted?

Think about this next time you make a promise, and when you make it, also ensure that there is a 99.99% chance of keeping it.

Your child may be young and short on life experiences, but this is one experience which you do not want your child to learn.

You might also want to remember that a child is actually a small person, and is every bit as good as or better than an adult at spotting and remembering instances of pie crusting..

Car seat safety - Very Important

The expiry date..

All child car seats have an expiry date stamped onto the carcass. It may be on the back of the seat or one of the sides, but it is there somewhere.

Not all seats have the same lifespan, some manufacturers allowing six years, others allowing seven or eight years. the important point is that the seat should not be used beyond the date stamped onto the seat.

Here is why.

The type of plastic used in ALL child car seat manufacture is polypropelene which is tough and resists cracking. As good as it is, years of being fixed down inside a vehicle, where the internal temperature can fluctuate between +50°C to -50°C takes its toll on the plastic and the harness parts.

There is no way that the seat will suddenly fall apart after the expiry date. It will hold together long after, but the residual strength left in the seat is a buffer zone. It means that, for the life of the seat upto the expiry date, the seat will properly protect its occupant.

Harness adjustment..

Before fitting the child car seat, you should always get the child to sit in it, and adjust the harness such that it fits snugly. Where the harness goes over the shoulders, the point where the harness is fixed into the back of the seat should be level or slightly above the shoulder.

The plastic two piece clip should be placed midway up the chest of the child, not too close to the neck. The purpose of this clip is to hold the top of the harness together such that the harness will not roll off the shoulders of the child.

Roll off is a very real possibility when the weather is cold and the child is having to wear thick clothing. It is a good idea to re-assess the clothing that your child is wearing as the interior temperature of the car rises.

Also, bear in mind that as your child grows, you will have to re-adjust the harness to allow for the growth. Child car seats are not a 'fit once and then leave' item.

Fitting into the vehicle..

Whether using the latch straps or the vehicles own seat belts, you must put pressure into the seat, taking up any slack in the vehicle seat belt. Do this a couple of times just to ensure that it is securely fixed down.You will find it easier to do this with the child car seats arm rests in folded position.

The recline function on car seats should not be used such that the child can sleep more easily when on the move. The function exists such that the base and the back of the child car seat fit firmly against the vehicle seat surfaces.

The top tether strap should be the last strap to be hooked up, and you should take as much slack out of it as you can. After fitting, check for movement. The seat should have virtually no movement sideways, and hardly any in the forward/backward plane.

Sleeping in the child car seat..

This is a real no-no. The last thing you want is your child's head slumping forwrds and out of control. It is a dangerous condition which can lead to constriction of the childs airway. Some children have been known to die when in this state for a protracted time. It can be the vehicle equivalent of cot death.

Do not ever use the motion of travel to get your child to sleep. If the child does fall asleep while in the seat, either get the child home or to some location where the child can sleep in a more natural position. Do this at your earliest convenience.

On a long journey, allow fresh air into the vehicle, and try to engage the child, singing or talking or playing a spotting game.

You owe it to your child to ensure maximum safety at all times.